Tonto Dikeh May Be Suffering from Identity Crisis-Segun Adekoye!

I am writing about Tonto Dikeh because she is someone I am genuinely concerned about. You won’t understand my concern. I love Tonto Dikeh. I have watched several of her movies and I sincerely believe she is made for acting (and for music in the afterlife). I wanted to talk about Tonto Dikeh and Rihanna but I believe Tonto’s crisis may be more serious than Rihanna’s.

While we may define success as the number of records and movies sold, awards won, number of fans, amount of money in the bank and so on, some artistes may not feel that way about themselves. Tonto has always been a controversial actress wanting to be in the news for several odd reasons. She begins a modest Nollywood career and begins to hit the high notes (in people’s subconscious) when she starts to take really daring (body-baring) scenes. She becomes a major source of concern after she finds a new career in music. Then, her kind of music and how she tries to pass her lyrics across is another reason to be concerned about the pretty actress. You find yourself reflexively tapping your colleague and asking if all is well with Tonto.

In my opinion, Tonto Dikeh wants to be a music superstar but she doesn’t know what genre to fit it. While she may want to try R&B and Soul, she is afraid that she doesn’t have the voice to sustain it. She also doesn’t have much faith in her rapping skills. Hence, the need to stick somewhere, anywhere that keeps her voice in the safe-zone. She wants to be like Rihanna. She wants to be able to do pop and electronic music. Ask her if she wants to win a Grammy, she’ll probably tell you she’s never considered it. And then ask her why she’s doing the music and she might shrug and say that she wants to make her fans happy.

How do you know Tonto is suffering from Identity Crisis?

Thank you for asking. I won’t go over the definition of Identity Crisis or what causes it. My friend Fola Daniel makes a good note of it here. I’ll just take an excerpt from his write-up:

I call it a process because most of the words associated with identity crisis reveal that they are not things that can come on you just in one night. They are things that happen gradually. You can’t wake one morning and start feeling intimidated by the people around you if nothing had been absent in you to allow for that intimidation. You don’t just see people and envy them right away. Envy is a feeling and a form of emotion that develops usually as a result of another process seen in other people. it is very obvious that most of the people experiencing identity crisis have something missing in them

1. Wants the Illuminatic attention

When Tonto released the video of her song “Hi”, it had similar sound and visual effects with Rihanna’s ” We found love” video. Symbolism and all those things attributed to Illuminati were present in the video. Even if Illuminati wasn’t a propaganda, she too small na. She never reach that level yet. She go need shine her torchlight well well.

2. Endless Twitter Rants & Wars

Tonto will be the first to start trouble on Twitter by indirectly dissing her colleagues. Like she is the Nigerian version Keri Hilson. So Tonto is trying to be like Rihanna and Keri Hilson at the same time. Na serious ish be that o. Tonto is also quick to insult fans that insult her. Like she has too much time on her hands.

3. Getting Drunk before a UK performance and falling on stage

There is no harm in taking a sip before you ride the stage for your performance before an international audience. The only harm is getting so stoned that you just rant like a car without breaks, you scream like a danfo bus conductor “London!”. Then you fall on stage. Who is Tonto trying to become? If she lacked the confidence to hit the stage alone because it was UK, she should have taken a backup or had someone support her.

4. Posting Drugs on Instagram

This is the most annoying part of it all. Tonto posted a marijuana wrap that almost got her in trouble with the NDLEA some weeks ago. This week, she posts the photo of a wrap and some powdery substance beside it. Whether it is drugs or not she has successfully passed her message across. What is Tonto Dikeh trying to call herself? A druggie? Another symptom of Identity Crisis.

5. Telling the world you’re okay when you’re depressed

But we all know Tonto isn’t exactly as happy as she claims and the criticisms aren’t getting to her. The fact that she even writes about it means they are getting to her. Here is what she posted on her Instagram page less than 24 hours ago.

How do you cure Tonto’s identity crisis?

Just say a prayer for Tonto because she won’t see a therapist or a psychologist. And she won’t agree with this write-up. I’d conclude using Fola Daniel’s words:

Don’t let your past failures frustrate you away from what you are doing if you know that is the right thing to do. Keep doing what you are good at, focus on it and take your eyes away from the previous setbacks you have had.

-Segun Adekoye!

My wife is still seeing her ex-lovers - Pastor tells a Lagos Customary Court!

A 51-year-old pastor, Mr. Sunday Owonikoko, has pleaded with the Orile-Agege Customary Court to dissolve his union with Mrs. Bolajoko Owonikoko over infidelity and threat to life on the part of the wife.

The couple has been together for 20 years and has four children.

Owonikoko, who lives at 1, Alowonle Street, Papa Ashafa, Orile-Agege, told the court that his wife, Bolajoko, was still seeing her ex-lovers.

"My wife once travelled to Ghana to meet one of her concubines; she did family planning without my consent and she goes out at will.

"She was suspended from the church for six months because she fought with all the ministers in the church.

"She established her own church, she fought all the members of the church and they all left," he said.

The father of four children, aged between 11 and 19 years, also told the court that his wife threatened to destroy him and the church.

"My wife threatened to destroy my ministry and also said she would kill me. I want the court to dissolve the union and grant me the custody of my children," he said.

However, Bolajoko, 47, denied the allegations.

She said, "My husband is adulterous; he has almost slept with all of the sisters in the church.

"A mother of seven is currently living with him as I speak and he has made the woman an evangelist," she said.

Bolajoko also told the court that since her husband ate vegetable soup in one of the sisters' house, "he has lost his mind. I don't love him anymore, I want a divorce."

The court president, Mr. Joseph Adewusi, told the couple to maintain the peace.

He adjourned the case till July 15, 2013.

‘My husband kept secret wife, children for 10 years’!

”My husband is a pathological liar, it was ten years after our marriage that I knew the woman he called his cousin and her children were his wife and children. My husband lied that he was going to Abuja for a training programme. I was surprised when I was told that he now lives in Mushin in a police woman’s house,” embattled housewife, Rashidat Adeniyi, told an Agege-Orile, Lagos  customary court.

The husband, Toyin Adeniyi, 50, denied the allegations. Toyin, an engineer, said, “Because, I am a handsome man, ladies fall for me, so it can be one of the strategies to cause quarrels between us that she heard those lies.

”I left the house because I owed a year rent and I told my wife that I would come for her and the children when I am back on my feet,” he said.

Rashidat  pleaded with the court to dissolve her 19-year-old marriage over two years desertion by her husband. The 33-year-old computer analyst, who lives at 33, Alaramimo Street, Orile-Agege, told the court that her husband left the house two years ago for a police woman’s house.

She told the court that it was after ten years of marriage that she knew that her husband had a wife and children before she married him.

The mother of three asked the court to dissolve the marriage and grant her the custody of the children.

Meanwhile, the husband said he still loved his wife, and not in support of the dissolution. ”Since, I am the busy type, anytime I left the house, my wife always suspected me.  I haven’t told anyone that I am a widower,” he stated. Toyin explained that the police woman the wife was referring to was just a friend.

The court President, Mr Joseph Adewusi, told the couple to maintain the peace and adjourned the case to July 22 for judgment.

Happy Birthday Gurl!

God sent HIS SON, we call him JESUS,
HE came to Love,
To Heal 
and to Forgive,
HE died to buy my pardon;

An empty grave 
is there to prove
My Savior Lives.

So.....
because He lives, 
I can face tomorrow,
because He lives,
all fear is gone;

because I KNOW,
He holds my future.....
My life is worth living
because He lives.




Thank YOU LORD for adding another beautiful year to my life, i must say, it is worth living because YOU are in this with me!



Yours Truly,

 He has been with me all through...........

Actress Funke Akindele's 1 year marriage to Kehinde Oloyede hits the rock!

Unfortunately this is not rumour, it's fact. A little over a year after tying the knot with Kehinde Oloyede, Nigerian popular actress Funke Akindele aka jenifa marriage has ended. 

Kehinde Oloyede shared the news of their split on his Facebook page (which he has since deleted). He wrote:

"It’s with heavy heart that am announcing the separation of me and ma wife Mrs olufunke akindele, we’ve both agreed to go our separate ways coz of irreconcilable differences.we still best of friends nd we 4ever remain gud friends.

Later he added...

"Am doing just fine, gettn along without u,don't need u anymore in ma life.u d greatest mistake av made in recent time.

Funke's publicist was reached out to, after reading the Facebook message, and they confirmed that the two have indeed gone their separate ways (for now). They've actually been having issues for a while and Funke had actually been planning to divorce him quietly, but Mr Oloyede decided to make it public

Funke and Kehinde during their marriage in 2012

Funke also recently changed her BB name from Mrs Funke Akindele Oloyede to Everybody loves Jenifa. Funke and Kehinde got married on Saturday May 26th 2012.

Soyinka’s Counsel To Dame Patience!

A few weeks ago, a newspaper reported that Dame Patience Jonathan had relocated to Port Harcourt to put finishing touches to her family’s plan to dethrone the duly elected governor of Rivers State, Rotimi Amaechi. 

Prof. Wole Soyinka

As is now usual with Jonathan’s spokespersons who think their raison d’etre is to lie on behalf of the president always, they quickly came out to declare that the story was not true. And as is the case with former stories they have denied, this one is unraveling before our very eyes.

Last week’s act of barbarism in Port Harcourt exposes the kind of presidency that has taken over the country – one that has neither regard for decency nor respect for the Nigerian nation. It is the same presidency which tacitly declared a candidate who got 16 votes winner over the other who got 19. This presidency shows no sophistication of any sort in its savage governance of the country.

Professor Wole Soyinka got the context perfectly. In admonishing Patience Jonathan, he rightly characterised her as a “mere domestic appendage”. You must be a “lady first before becoming a first lady”, he said. 

First lady of Nigeria, Dame Patience Jonathan

If the president cannot call his spouse to order, then, it will be in order for someone else to do it for him. That is exactly what Professor Soyinka did last week, and I think those who consider themselves elders and statesmen of the country should speak up now before our country is thrown to the dogs. I do not know anywhere in the world where a mere state permanent secretary, which by the way is what the first lady proudly considers herself, will organise the kind of thuggery we saw last week. I am not surprised that some people are already calling for the president’s impeachment.

Well, since the constitution has not provided for the impeachment of the first lady, maybe it will be better to impeach the president so that the first lady can get out of the way. That’s probably the logic. This should have been a laughing matter but for the fact that our country is being made a laughing stock.

There was a time I was an advocate for Dame Patience. I used to tell people who got entertained by her inimitable licence with the English language to allow Dame Patience to be herself. Now I know better. She must not be allowed to be herself. She should be first lady, not herself. This is the challenge we now have as a nation.

Granted, the first lady has no constitutional role but any nation’s first lady does not need a constitutional role to become a role model. The role model function comes with the job. First ladies all over the civilised world are always a stabilising force for their busy husbands and they are invariably more popular with the people than their politician and often controversial husbands. Indeed, there was a time Dame Patience played that role because, as many have testified, she is generally a good lady. But since she became the first lady in our nation’s chequered history to double as a local permanent secretary, she snapped.

My candid advice to our dear first lady is to find a role for herself in furthering the welfare of children, women, or even rehabilitating prostitutes. She should leave politics to politicians and thuggery to thugs.

And it is important for the president to take full charge of his domestic affairs. If he cannot take control of his household, should we then be surprised that the entire country is in such disarray? The aphorism that charity begins at home should apply even to presidents.

The president’s own competence is already a source of worry for Nigerians. Matters should not be complicated with an unhinged first lady.

US attorney general says Trayvon Martin inquiry to continue!

“The rape of justice anywhere ,violates justice everywhere” ― Colin Tegerdine

America's top prosecutor, Eric Holder, has said an investigation into the "tragic, unnecessary" death of 17-year-old Trayvon Martin will continue.

The justice department last year opened an inquiry into the unarmed black teenager's death, then stood aside to allow Florida's prosecution to proceed.

George Zimmerman, who said he opened fire in self-defence in February 2012, was cleared of murder on Saturday.

Civil rights groups have pledged further protests over the verdict.

Over the weekend, demonstrations across the country against the verdict have been mostly peaceful, with many demanding justice for Martin's family and questioning the fairness of the justice system.

'Strong passions'

US Attorney General Holder said on Monday that he understood concerns about the case.

"The justice department shares your concern," he told a black women's college alumnae group in Washington DC, to applause. "I share your concern."

Mr Holder said he hoped the country would take the opportunity "to speak honestly about the complicated and emotionally charged issues that this case has raised".

President Barack Obama has already acknowledged the case has elicited "strong passions", but emphasised: "We are a nation of laws, and a jury has spoken."

On Monday, the White House said that Mr Obama would not involve himself in the justice department's decision on whether to pursue civil rights charges against Mr Zimmerman, a 29-year-old former neighbourhood watch volunteer.

The department has a long history of using federal civil rights law in an effort to continue legal proceedings against defendants who have already been acquitted in related state cases. But convictions are often tough to obtain in such cases, analysts say.

Demonstrations are being planned in up to 100 cities next Saturday in front of federal buildings.

Civil rights leader and broadcaster Reverend Al Sharpton is organising those events through his National Action Network.

"I don't care if it's 20 people. We want to show the nation that over 100 cities a week later is still demanding justice," he told the Tom Joyner radio programme. "We're not having a fit, we're having a movement."

Mr Zimmerman was found not guilty of second-degree murder and manslaughter late on Saturday.

After the verdict was announced, there were protests across the US - including in San Francisco, Philadelphia, Chicago, Washington, Boston, San Diego and Atlanta.

The biggest demonstration, in New York, attracted thousands of people.

Los Angeles Mayor Eric Garcetti has returned from a visit to the East Coast to deal with clashes in his city between police and protesters at a rally after the verdict was handed down.

Police used bean-bag rounds and made six arrests while breaking up demonstrations in the early hours of Monday morning. No injuries have been reported.

The National Association for the Advancement of Colored People has also called for civil rights charges to be filed against Mr Zimmerman.

His family and representatives have said they are afraid he could fall victim to revenge attacks.

His brother Robert said he had received frequent threats on social media and there was "more reason now than ever to think that people are trying to kill him".

"He's going to be looking over his shoulder the rest of his life," he said.



“No man is justified in doing evil on the ground of expediency.” ― Theodore Roosevelt